Empowering Latina Teens Through Search Engine Optimization
Growing up, many young Latinas heard the age-old phrase “calladita te ves más bonita,” meaning, “You’re prettier when you don’t speak.” Passed down through generations, this phrase might be a way of showing young Latinas to be modest, but what it actually does is tie a woman’s worth to her appearance and teach her to suppress her thoughts and opinions. For tweens and teens, hearing this phrase during their formative years can negatively affect how they see themselves.
Impact of “Calladita Te Ves Más Bonita” on Latina Teens
“The phrase ‘calladita te ves más bonita’ tells Latinas that their thoughts, feelings, and needs are a burden and that not voicing them makes them more pleasant,” says Yolanda Renteria, LPC. “It’s a way to devalue Latinas and center people pleasing as what makes them valuable, which has been culturally how Latinas have been valued and devalued.”
At a pivotal age when they’re navigating the complexities of self-discovery, identity formation, and finding their voice, the notion of “calladita te ves más bonita” can chip away at young Latinas’ confidence and self-esteem.
Fighting a Battle Against Silence
This internalized message can contribute to feelings of inadequacy and self-doubt and a reluctance to live up to their full potential. It can stifle their creativity, ambition, and the very essence of who they are. Worse yet, it can foster a belief that their opinions and voices are not important, resulting in a lifetime of holding back and settling for less than they deserve.
What Parents Can Say
As Latine parents, it is our responsibility to break this vicious cycle and empower our daughters to unapologetically own their voices. We can start by embracing a new mantra. For example, “Tu vos es poderosa y tu opinión importa.” (“Your voice is powerful, and your opinion matters.”) Additionally, prioritize open and honest communication, actively listening to their thoughts, dreams, and aspirations.
Spotting Red Flags
Sometimes, even with a careful and proactive approach, your daughter might still struggle with self-esteem or confidence issues. Do not hesitate to seek out counselors, therapists, or support groups. Providing them with the necessary tools and resources is crucial for their overall well-being and personal growth.
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