Dolphin Parenting: A Guide to Balanced and Joyful Parenting

Characteristics of Dolphin Parenting

Dolphin parenting is an approach that emphasizes balance, lightheartedness, and emotional connection. Like a playful dolphin, parents who adopt this style aim to raise happy, well-adjusted kids by striking a balance (not too strict, not too lenient) in their everyday interactions.

Harvard-educated psychiatrist and scientist Shimi Kang first coined the “dolphin” style of parenting, which is a variation of the authoritative parenting style. “Like the body of the dolphin, these parents are firm yet flexible. Dolphin parents have rules and expectations but also value creativity and independence,” writes Kang.

Here are some of the common traits at the core of dolphin parenting.

• Emotional connection: Dolphin parents are attuned to their children’s feelings and needs, modeling and encouraging emotional expression.
• Joyfulness: Dolphin parents incorporate play and emphasize fun as a family value.
• Supported risk-taking: Parents encourage discovery and challenge while offering support during setbacks and disappointments.

Benefits of Dolphin Parenting

Research has shown that the authoritative style of parenting (the style most closely aligned with dolphin parenting) is by far the most beneficial. It’s strongly correlated with higher levels of life satisfaction, and it creates children who are responsible and confident, with the ability to regulate their emotions and accomplish goals.

Children raised with too much freedom might occasionally struggle with boundaries or structure, depending on how well the parent implements this style.

Are There Any Downsides to Dolphin Parenting?

When it comes to child development, there aren’t many drawbacks to the dolphin parenting style. Kids thrive with parents who understand the delicate balance between stepping in and backing off, and they often develop a strong set of skills to last throughout their lives.

Ready to “dive” into the dolphin parenting style? Check out these helpful tips from our experts to start on your journey to fostering a closer connection with your children.

Model self-regulation. Talk about your feelings and coping skills to help children learn to manage their own emotions.

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