10 Ways to Overcome Tragic Child Loss

Dealing with the Loss of a Child: Coping Strategies

When a loved one dies at an older age, people often take comfort not only in celebrating their life but also in knowing that death is part of the natural process of living. This experience is not the same when faced with the loss of a child. For parents who have lost a child, it makes no sense for life to end at such a young age—particularly when the death is sudden and without warning. The loss cuts so deep that it can be suffocating. If you are dealing with this type of loss in your family, here are some ways to help you and your family heal.

Stick Together as a Family

Stick together as a family and lean on each other for help. While everyone in the family will need to have their private time, you also can find comfort in each other. Being together can help you remember that you are not alone in your grief. Use the strength of your family’s sense of belonging to help you manage your sorrow. Be there to support one another consistently.

Seeking Professional Help

Facing the loss of a child can certainly put enormous strain on mental health, a marriage, and on each parent’s relationship with surviving children. Seek professional help when coming to terms with your loss. Don’t try to get through this situation on your own. Family counseling can give you and your family the skills you need to get through the tremendously difficult loss.

Accepting Help from Others

Be open and willing to accept help from extended family members, friends, or neighbors. Don’t try to do everything on your own. Give yourself the break you need and take people up on their offer to help in any way they can. Those around you have the desire to help, but they may not know how.

Preparing for Life After the Initial Shock

There are two distinct time periods after a loss that can help you understand the grieving process. The first is immediately following the death, when extended family, friends, and community gather. It is the time period when you are dealing with funerals and memorial services and there is lots of activity. The second phase comes “after the casseroles are done,” which describes the time when all of the food that was given to the family by neighbors and friends is gone.

Continuing to Seek Support

While getting help to see you through the initial shock of your loss is very important, it is also imperative to continue seeking professional help. You will need support for any unforeseen issues that the loss may cause, especially as you move through the stages of grief.

Finding a Support Group

Many parents find that it helps to join a support group, either as a family or alone. While it doesn’t take the place of seeing a dedicated professional, groups can add another layer of support, especially if grief is making you feel isolated and lonely.

Paying Attention to Your Health

More often than not, parents and their children are so overcome with grief over the sudden loss of a loved one, that they neglect their own health. They may forget to eat, stop exercising, and rely on less nutritious convenience foods because they just don’t have the energy to cook. It is important to make an effort to eat nutritious foods and get some exercise. Take baby steps to get back on track. As you start feeling better, you can add more healthy lifestyle changes and routines back into your life.
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